17 May 2018 – Catherine, Claire and Ettie

My name is Catherine, I am gestational mother to an eleven month old baby Ettie and partner to Claire. I’m about to start my birth and post-partum doula training to become a birth worker and am one of the newly appointed committee members to Rainbow Families Victoria. I do website work for RFV and am charged with the running of this blog. I am originally from Brisbane and spent most of my childhood in Port Moresby, Papua New Guinea. I moved to Victoria about seven years ago and currently call Fairfield home. I am new to this family business, so mind my fresh musings.

I write this, the morning its due – realising, once again I am a creature of habit. Claire, Ettie and I just had our first Mother’s Day together, in the midst of chaos and boxes. We were moving house the next day and were slowly moving smaller things before our beloved volunteers would arrive the next morning to lift couches. What used to take an hour, takes about three with an eleven month old in tow, we found this out the hard way. My mum makes sure to tell me on the phone, ‘you’re doing a great job’.

Mother’s day always appeared to me from the outside as an excuse for a fire sale on fluffy night gowns, slippers and perfume that had been piling up in stock rooms and dusting up shelves since Christmas. My appreciation and gratitude for my own mother aside, I was yet to understand what it means to be a parent. It is agonizing, terrifying and magnificent all in the same minute. You have to give up all control and advice you didn’t take seriously before smacks you in the face as you realize the basis of this whole experience is pretty universal.

So, to the mothers and parents out there – who may, or may not have received fluffy slippers just in time for winter.

You’re doing a great job.

Until next time, Catherine.

A photo of us from a few months ago when our house was neat, taken by the wonderful Jessica Miller.

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It can often be a huge relief to finally feel like someone else out there is going through a similar journey to you. For most of us in rainbow families, and especially anyone thinking of starting a family, there aren’t a lot of places you can go to ask a burning question, rule books to help you with the tricky situations that pop up when you are parenting or guides to help you respond to an awkward moment with a family member or service provider. For lots of us, hearing from someone who was at a planning or parenting stage just ahead of where you are can be amazing and very helpful! We hope this blog can be that place where these helpful conversations can start.

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